One of the things that I find fascinating about the creation story in Genesis is how it speaks of how perfectly God ordered the relationship that was meant to be had between a husband and his wife. In Genesis 2 we see Adam after he is placed in the Garden, God has given him the task of caring for it. In the process of all that God had commanded Adam to do, we find here that God makes the statement that it’s not good for man to be alone, yet Adam goes about his business naming animals until God puts him asleep to begin the process of creating woman.
What is interesting to note is that it is in the process of naming the animals that Adam discovers that of all of God’s creation, every animal had counterpart; in other words, there was both a male and female of every animal. He realized that he, being man, however did not have a counterpart. It was at the moment of this discovery that God then proceeds to put him to sleep to begin the task of fashioning woman.
When God was finished and Adam was awakened, this is when God presents woman to him. Adam the identifies her as being his counterpart, saying, “this is now bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man.” Then it says that it is for this same reason that subsequently, men leave their fathers and mothers for the purpose of cleaving to their own wives. In fact, it is in Proverbs 18:22 where we see another scripture which says, “he who finds a wife finds a good thing.” The New Living Translation puts it as, “finds a treasure.”
I think that what so often many people miss about the pursuit of marriage, both men and women, is that in the pursuit of marriage, a marriage minded man is in pursuit of a woman who is both, (1) a compliment to him, and (2) already prepared as a wife.
You may not agree with this, but consider what we’ve already seen in scripture. When God created, He created everything in it’s already complete and mature form, never from it’s seed form. When god presented Eve to Adam, she was already his compliment and prepared to assume the task of being a help meet or wife to him. Both Adam and Eve were complete at the time that they met. However, the key thing about Adam’s need for Eve, was to have someone who complimented his purpose.
Adam could not self procreate, nor could he manage the task of being fruitful, having dominion, multiply, or replenish apart from having a help meet. He needed Eve. The power of a woman to perfectly compliment a man in a marriage makes them an undeniable force. It is in the fullness and depth of this union which is marriage that causes Jesus to say, “therefore they are no longer two but, one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”
It is in the completeness of marriage that a husband and wife fully have dominion. This is the treasure that a man finds when he finds a wife who perfectly compliments him in his purpose. If a man is not finding someone who compliments him in his purpose, there essentially is an unequal yoking in whomever he finds. If you are a woman who yearns to be found, you’ll know if he’s the right one when you (1) know your own purpose, and (2) know that your purpose compliments his purpose. The frustration for both men and women alike is when only one of the two, or neither of the two have this in mind.
Men, dare to find your compliment. Women, dare to determine if you are his compliment. When God puts a man a woman together, you know it was Him because you both compliment each other.
QUESTION: What challenges have you faced in your pursuit of marriage?